Blog 93: Stop Trying to Be Perfect and Start Feeling Satisfied-One Pocket of Peace at a Time!

Let go of perfection and find joy in everyday motherhood.

Introduction

Let's be real: if perfection were a postcode, none of us would afford to live there. And yet, so many of us mums are trying to move in, unpack, and host a Pinterest-worthy dinner party all at once.

Spoiler alert: perfection is a myth, and it's making us miserable.

This blog isn't about lowering the bar; it's about moving it entirely. Because what if the real goal of motherhood (and, honestly, life) wasn't to have it all neatly colour-coded and chaos-free, but instead to feel satisfied in those beautiful, blink-and-you'll-miss-them moments, the quiet coffee before the school run, the belly laugh mid-meltdown, the sacred scroll in the pantry pretending you're alone?

If you're tired of the never-ending hustle to be everything to everyone, this one's for you. Let's ditch the guilt, laugh at the mess, and start feeling really good, one perfectly imperfect moment at a time.

The Perfection Trap (And Why It’s Time to Let It Go)

Let's be real; perfection is a moving target. Just when you think you've nailed it, it shifts again… and again. In motherhood, this constant chasing can leave us completely drained as we try to meet standards that no one can actually live up to.

But here's a thought, what if we redefined what success really looks like?

What if it's not about ticking all the boxes but about feeling present and satisfied in the small, ordinary moments of our day?

For me, that shift began when I finally permitted myself to prioritise myself. I realised selfcare isn't just some fluffy "nice to have"; it's essential. Once I started taking small, intentional steps toward my wellbeing, I felt more grounded, more connected… and more me.

Letting Go of the "Perfect Mother" Script

For a long time, I believed that being a good mum meant being available all the time, no breaks, no space, no mistakes. I thought if I just organised better or tried harder, I'd eventually feel in control.

But the truth hit me one day as I was juggling a school project, a work deadline, and burnt dinner, I didn't need to do more, I needed to do less. I needed to say yes to myself.

That's when I started protecting my own "pockets of peace", closing my laptop for a midday walk, journaling for five minutes after school drop-off, or simply ignoring the laundry and dancing with my kids instead.

💛 I talk more about that turning point in this blog:

🟡 Message: It's not about being perfect, it's about being honest, grounded, and well.

The Power of Small, Soulful Moments

Here's the thing: satisfaction doesn't live in a perfectly planned day. It lives in the tiny moments we often overlook:

☕ A quiet cuppa before the house wakes up

😮‍💨 A deep breath between the chaos

😂 A giggle over something completely silly at dinner

These are your pockets of peace. They don't ask for hours of your time, just a few sacred minutes. And they make all the difference.

You don't need to overhaul your schedule to reconnect with yourself. Sometimes, five minutes is more than enough.

The 5-Minute Reset That Changed the Whole Day

One afternoon, after an emotionally full morning of drop-offs, work stress, and a snack explosion across the car seats (mum life, right?), I did something wild… I stopped, just for five minutes.

I stepped outside, took off my shoes, and stood barefoot in the grass. No podcast. No to-do list. Just breathe and be silent. And in that small, seemingly silly pause, I felt my shoulders drop, my mind clear, and my energy return.

It wasn't a spa day or a digital detox. It was five sacred minutes of me coming back to myself.

⏰ Curious how to use just five minutes to reset?

🟡 Message: You don't need hours to reset, just a moment of intention.

Real-Life Steps to Feel More Satisfied Each Day

1.      Start small; seriously, tiny is powerful.

Give yourself just five minutes a day to do something that actually feels good. That might be journaling, stretching your body, standing in the sun, or simply sitting still (yes, doing nothing counts!).

2.      Ditch the pressure to "do it all."

Perfection is exhausting, and let's be honest, it's not even real. Set yourself up for realistic wins. Progress over perfection, always.

3.      Celebrate the everyday magic.

Drink your coffee while it is still hot? Win. Didn't you not lose it when the socks didn't match again? Double win. Those moments matter more than you think.

4.      Be gentle with yourself.

Motherhood is full-on. Life is full-on. Please remember you’re already doing your best, and that is more than enough.

💛 I always tell my clients: You deserve to be well.

Not when everything is done. Not when everyone else is okay. Now. Because looking after you isn't selfish; it's how everything else gets better.

 Rethinking What Success Really Looks Like in Motherhood

Success in motherhood isn't about having a spotless house, ticking off every task, or adhering to the "perfect" routine (whatever that even is). It's about feeling connected, fulfilled, and present. It's about finding those tiny, imperfect moments that fill your cup, even if everything else feels like it's falling apart.

Sometimes, it's choosing to laugh at the chaos instead of trying to control it.

Sometimes, it's saying no to the to-do list and yes to your own peace.

In my conversation with the beautiful Tal Rafel, we explored how mindfulness can help mothers reconnect with themselves, not in some far-off, ideal future, but right now, amid the mess.

In Blog 72, I open about the invisible labour so many mums carry and how recognising, it is the first step to feeling seen, heard, and, ultimately, more satisfied.

A 4-Step Process to Let Go of Perfection and Feel Truly Satisfied

Step 1: Pause and Get Honest

Take a breath and ask yourself, who am I trying to impress, and why? Often, the pressure to be perfect comes from outdated expectations or comparison traps. Naming it is the first step to releasing it.

Step 2: Find Your Pocket Moments

Look for the small windows in your day, 5, 10, or 15 minutes, and protect them like gold. Whether it's a quiet coffee, a slow stretch, or even standing barefoot in the grass, these simple moments are your entry point to feeling calm and connected again. (New Freebie will be available soon- keep your eyes out for this)

Step 3: Create Your Own 'Enough List'

Forget the never-ending to-do list. Write a short daily "Enough List"- 2 or 3 things that, if done, help you feel grounded and satisfied. It's drinking water, exercising, or playing with your kids. Let this be your new benchmark for a good day.

Step 4: Celebrate the Real Wins (Not Just the Big Ones)

Did you make it through bedtime without yelling? Victory. Ate lunch sitting down? Huge. These are the real markers of success in this season of life. Start noticing them. Name them. Honour them.

The Wollongong Weekend That Changed My Rhythm

Last year, I took a spontaneous family trip to Wollongong, not because the timing was perfect (it wasn't), or because everything at home was done (it never is), but because I -actually we needed to break the cycle of "do more, be more."

We packed light, left the mess behind, and simply… went. The ocean walks, shared meals, and slow mornings reminded me that life doesn’t have to be curated to be beautiful. The rest is productive. That showing up for my family starts with showing up for myself. 

🟢 Message: You don't have to earn rest. You must choose it.

✨ Final Thoughts (And a Loving Nudge Just for You)

Letting go of perfection isn't about lowering the bar; it's about raising the standard. It's about moving the goalposts to a place that feels good to stand in. It's about choosing satisfaction over stress and presence over performance.

 Choosing Sips of Me Over Serving Everyone Else

On my Instagram, I shared a list of small moments that feel like "sips of me": sunshine on my skin, a deep breath during the afternoon slump, a slow coffee, a Pilates/Yoga class, and a quiet moment just being.

I used to think selfcare had to be grand or perfectly scheduled. Now? I build my day around these sips. Not every day is ideal, but I make space for things that fill me up, because when I don't, I feel the depletion creep in.

 🟢 Message: Selfcare isn't just a spa day; it's the tiny things that help you stay true to yourself.

Because guess what? The magic isn't waiting for you on a perfect day. When you wait too long, it may be too late!

It's already happening in that warm cuppa you forgot you reheated twice, in the breath you take between to-dos, in the quiet giggle with your child over something totally silly.

If you're tired of chasing perfection and you're ready to feel more grounded, more present, and more you, I'm here for it. And I'm here for you.

Questions and Reflections

Reflect & Reconnect

1. Where in my day do I feel most at ease or most myself?

Reflection: These are your sacred moments. How can you create more space for them, even if it's just five minutes?

2. What unrealistic standards am I holding myself to and who do they serve?

Reflection: Awareness is powerful. When you notice where pressure creeps in, you can choose to release it and redefine what "enough" looks like for you.

3. What small wins have I overlooked this week that deserve celebrating?

Reflection: Satisfaction lives in the ordinary. Write down three tiny victories; they count, and they matter.

Quotes

   “Perfection is the enemy of progress” Winston Churchill

 “There is beauty in the mess, grace in the undone, and peace in the pause.” Anonymous

 “You don’t need to be everything to everyone just present to yourself.” Anonymous

Conclusion

You Don't Need to Be Perfect, You Need to Be You

Mama, if no one has told you lately, you're already doing enough. Not because your home is spotless or your to-do list is ticked off but because you show up every day with love, intention, and grit. That matters more than any version of perfection ever will.

So today, instead of pushing harder, I invite you to pause. Breathe. Notice the small, quiet wins. Let go of what "should" be and start honouring what feels good to you.

And if this message landed in your heart, don't just close the tab and carry on. Take one tiny action.

✨ DM me "satisfied" on Instagram, and I'll send you a beautiful cheat sheet to keep you grounded.

✨ Save this blog so you can return to it when life feels overwhelming.

✨ Or whisper to yourself, I am allowed to slow down.

Because you are, and you deserve to feel satisfied, not someday, but now.

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Feeling stuck in a rut and yearning for a life transformation?

What if the goal in life wasn't to have it all perfectly together, the flawless routine, the spotless home, the always-happy mindset? What if the real magic lived in the small, imperfect moments that feel good, the quiet sip of coffee, the deep breath between to-dos, the laughter that catches you off guard?

✨ Blog 94 is nearly here, and trust me, it's the kind of wisdom your overwhelmed mama heart needs. I've teamed up with the calm and grounded Sarah (yes, the one who turns chaos into peace!) to answer all your burning questions about clutter, energy, motherhood, and how your home can be your healing space. Mark this on your calendar 20^th of July. 💛

From Human Design to sentimental school art (we went there), Sarah brings truth, humour and heart to every answer, and you'll walk away with practical, soulful tips you can use today. 🏡💫

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With much Love

Mukti 💫

“When we trade perfection for peace, motherhood becomes a lot more joyful and a lot more human.” Brené Brown

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